Other people can’t cause us to be impatient unless we let them do so. In other words, others don’t make us impatient. We make ourselves impatient, through our expectations and demands, fixated attachments and stuckness.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Are you waiting to start living? If you develop such a mind pattern, no matter what you achieve or get, the present will never be good enough; the future will always seem better. A perfect recipe for permanent dissatisfaction and non-fulfillment, don't you agree?
Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don't want the present. You don't want what you've got, and you want what you haven't got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don't want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
When we look back at our experience, we can see so clearly its ephemeral, dreamlike nature. Yet when we look ahead, when we look to the future, somehow (and this is the great enchantment) we get dazzled by all the possibilities that are there waiting for us as if the next event in our lives, the next sitaution, the next project, the next reationship, the next meal, even on meditation the next breath ... we live our lives in anticipation of the next hit of experience as if the one that's coming will finally do it for us. What's so strange is that nothing up 'til now has brought that sense of real completion or fulfillment. So why are we so seduced into thinking that the next one will? This is a very strange phenomenon.
Monday, July 25, 2011
We have to face the pain we have been running from. In fact, we need to learn to rest in it and let its searing power transform us.A few simple words, really. With a meaning that bears careful and deep pondering.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
She's right, you know.
If we fall, we don’t need self-recrimination or blame or anger – we need a reawakening of our intention and a willingness to recommit, to be whole-hearted once again.
Friday, July 22, 2011
Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. We can love and care for others but we cannot possess our children, lovers, family, or friends. We can assist them, pray for them, and wish them well, yet in the end their happiness and suffering depend on their thoughts and actions, not on our wishes.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Monday, July 18, 2011
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Really, the fundamental, ultimate mystery -- the only thing you need to know to understand the deepest metaphysical secrets -- is this: that for every outside there is an inside and for every inside there is an outside, and although they are different, they go together.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Friday, July 15, 2011
Here's a little extremely ironic "quick fact" that illustrates this principle very effectively:
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
"The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently."We often think we're protecting ourselves by refusing to look within. Actually, just the opposite is the case.
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Monday, July 11, 2011
Sunday, July 10, 2011
Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.-- Lin Yutang
Saturday, July 09, 2011
Friday, July 08, 2011
Thursday, July 07, 2011
You will never find yourself until you face the truth.
Wednesday, July 06, 2011
Tuesday, July 05, 2011
Monday, July 04, 2011
Sunday, July 03, 2011
I was recently in a meeting with a dozen high-powered professional people. We started talking about our goals for our leisure time, and how seldom we allow ourselves to truly enjoy our own quiet moments. We each decided to make a list of the things we really liked to do.The lists included things like watching a sunset. Taking a walk. Chatting with a friend. Browsing in a bookstore. Reading a good book. Puttering in the garden. Taking a nap. Spending quiet time with our spouse. Spending quiet time with our kids. Listening to a favorite piece of music. Watching a favorite movie. Sitting quietly in a comfy chair and doing nothing.