Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Arguing with what is

Here's a marvelous excerpt from Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie with Stephen Mitchell:

The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.

If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, "Meow." Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless. You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach a cat to bark.

And yet, if you pay attention, you'll notice that you think thoughts like this dozens of times a day. "People should be kinder." "Children should be well-behaved." "My neighbors should take better care of their lawn." "The line at the grocery store should move faster." "My husband (or wife) should agree with me." "I should be thinner (or prettier or more successful)." These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different than it is. If you think that this sounds depressing, you're right. All the stress that we feel is caused by arguing with what is.

2 comments:

  1. Anonymous6:31 AM

    This is great! I had to laugh at myself when I realized how much time I spend trying to get "cats" to bark. Thanks so much

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  2. Smiling! Ear to ear!
    Thanks

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