The essential, indispensable, vital approach

There is a wonderful Tibetan slogan that says, "Of the two witnesses, hold to the principle one." It is basically saying that people-pleasing is not going to help us ultimately --- that it's critical to stick to our own values and work on fulfilling our own aspirations. The following speaks to this:

It is rewarding to find someone you like, but it is essential to like yourself. It is quickening to recognize that someone is a good and decent human being, but it is indispensable to view yourself as acceptable. It is a delight to discover people who are worthy of respect and admiration and love, but it is vital to believe yourself deserving of these things.

For you cannot live in someone else. You cannot find yourself in someone else. You cannot be given a life by someone else. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose.

To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.

-- Jo Coudert