Monday, March 10, 2008

Why gift giving feels good

When you give something you feel good because at that time you feel at one with what you are giving.
— Shunryu Suzuki-roshi quoted in At Home with Dying by Merrill Collett


  1. Anonymous10:51 PM

    I'm not sure I agree with this. The good feelings I have from giving are from feeling at one with the recipient--not the gift. Feeling at one with the recipient is also what sometimes makes me feel inadequate in my giving--it makes me realize just how selfish I am at times.
    Carolyn L.

  2. Dear Ellie,
    When I give gifts, I always think of all the lessons on giving my mother taught me. Many times we gave without letting anyone know who the giver was. She would tell me that I must never tell, because the fun was in the giving, always in the giving, never in getting credit or thanks for the gift. I find that she was right. I love to give gifts. I find, however, that some people are suspicious and feel that there must be strings attached, even when there are none.


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