Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Something about "right speech"

Sometimes I am very dismayed when people insist that "honesty" is the value that trumps every other value. I've heard the most egregious acts of unkindness justified in that way. Here's something that speaks to this issue:

If it is not truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is not truthful and helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.

- The Buddha


  1. 在台灣有許多的家庭無法一次負擔汽車和房子的金額,或是基於錢在身邊比較安心的準則,往往會向銀行或是企業申請貸款,房屋貸款年限通常是十年或二十年,前幾年可以申請只付利息的優惠,車貸則是依據貸款的金額來決定年數,但通常都是三到五年,汽車貸款相較於房屋貸款有彈性的多,因此許多有名的企業也會和銀行合作提供汽車貸款的服務。

  2. Anonymous12:52 PM

    I was recently a victim of verbal abuse and when I objected, the person said, "I was JUST being honest"!

    annie c

  3. I think quite often what people think of as honesty is simply their attempt to assert their own agenda or to make themselves feel better or superior by classifying the other person in a particular way. That's not to say that you shouldn't tell it how you see it when necessary but it shouldn't be arrogant.


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