"Death is psychologically as important as birth. Shrinking away from it is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose."
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Something about death
Monday, January 09, 2012
A good one on mindfulness
"Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of present experience. It isn't more complicated than that."
- Sylvia Boorstein
Sunday, January 08, 2012
Saturday, January 07, 2012
Beginner's Mind
1. Look around your bedroom and find one object that you have had for a long time -- something that is very familiar to you. It may be a wall hanging, book, plant, or even a piece of clothing.
2. Sit down somewhere you can view the object you have chosen, close your eyes (if this feels comfortable), and take a few deep breaths. Set your intention to cultivate beginner's mind.
3. Open you eyes and look at the object you have chosen. Imagine you are from Mars and have never seen anything like it before. Really look at the object without judging it.
4. Notice the unique qualities of the object. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Where does it catch shadows or reflect light?
5. Continue to really examine the object. Do you notice anything about it that you hadn't noticed before?
6. When you are done looking at the object, reflect on this exercise. Did you learn anything new about the object you chose? What would it mean if we were able to approach everything in our lives with beginner's mind? Are there objects, people, or situations that you tend to react to "automatically," as if you already know what they are?You can find the complete article containing the above exercise right here.
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Friday, January 06, 2012
Something really worth remembering
"If you take the the insults of your fellow human beings personally, you will be offended for the rest of your life."~~~
Thursday, January 05, 2012
Giving ourselves kindness and respect
Learning how to be kind to ourselves, learning how to respect ourselves, is important. The reason it's important is that, fundamentally, when we look into our own hearts and begin to discover what is confused and what is brilliant, what is bitter and what is sweet, it isn't just ourselves that we're discovering. We're discovering the universe.Remember, we are not really separate from all that is. We are deeply, utterly, wonderfully connected.
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Wednesday, January 04, 2012
Tuesday, January 03, 2012
Something about the heart
When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.~~~
Monday, January 02, 2012
Meditation headline of the day
Breast Cancer Survivors Benefit From Meditation
And here's part of what it says:
The university’s MBSR [Mindfulness based stress reduction] program consists of group sessions over eight to 10 weeks. During the sessions, participants practice meditation skills, discuss how their bodies respond to stress, and learn coping techniques. The researchers found that survivors who learned MBSR lowered their blood pressure, heart rate and respiratory rate. In addition, their moods improved, and their level of mindfulness increased after taking the class, Armer said, noting that for best results, breast cancer survivors should continue MBSR after the class ends to maintain the positive effects.~~~
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Stopping: a radical act of love
Friday, December 30, 2011
Interconnectedness
"The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of star stuff."
I've always loved what Carl Sagan said here - ever since I heard it on Cosmos so many years ago. "Star stuff." Truly wonderful words!
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Thursday, December 29, 2011
A simple mindfulness exercise
1. Stop whatever you're currently involved in.
2. Take three intentional breaths
3. Now name five things you can see in your immediate environment.
4. Name five things you can hear in your immediate environment.
5. Finally, name five things you can feel right now. (The clothes against your skin, the pressure of your body against the seat of the chair, etc...)
6. Take another three intentional breaths.
7. Return to whatever was claiming your attention before the exercise.
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Rejoicing in the ordinary
"The key is to be here, fully connected with the moment, paying attention to the details of ordinary life. By taking care of ordinary things-our pots and pans, our clothing, our teeth - we rejoice in them. When we scrub a vegetable or brush our hair, we are expressing appreciation: friendship toward ourselves and toward the living quality that is found in everything."
Monday, December 26, 2011
More about the present moment
“One has to live in the present. Whatever is past is gone beyond recall; whatever is future remains beyond one’s reach, until it becomes present. Remembering the past and giving thought to the future are important, but only to the extent that they help one deal with the present.”~~~
Sunday, December 25, 2011
In honor of this day!
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Mind alignment
"Aligning our minds with the most compassionate~~~
words and thoughts we can muster can bring
connection and a sense of peace. For some,
it means giving up almost an entire way of life,
but only this will allow glints of joy to shine through."
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Monday, December 19, 2011
How to be at home
We can travel a long way and do many things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. it is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home.~~~
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Mindfulness
A drop of pond water under the microscope just like in science class but now you are the pond & the microscope is mindfulness~~~
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Monday, December 12, 2011
Sunday, December 11, 2011
A powerful Zen saying
If you understand, things are just as they are;
if you do not understand, things are just as they are.
Friday, December 09, 2011
Contentment and discernment
Meditation: Finding Contentment in Everyday Life
Discernment is the tool that got you interested in meditation. I'm guessing that like so many others, you discerned that you were not 100 percent happy with the way things are in your life and decided, "Well, let me try this meditation thing out." Perhaps after you learned to meditate, you discerned that it's a tool that's valuable for you and determined that you wanted to make it more of a part of your life.
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Monday, December 05, 2011
Sympathetic Joy
One of the hardest things for many of us to do is to feel happy when something good happens to another person. Judgment and envy, the tendency to compare and demean, and greed and prejudice narrow our world and make sympathetic joy nearly impossible to experience. But learning to feel joy for others can help transform our own suffering and self-centeredness into joy.
-- Joan Halifax
Friday, December 02, 2011
A wonderful description of mindfulness
Mindfulness is a very simple form of meditation that was little known in the West until recently. A typical meditation consists of focusing your full attention on your breath as it flows in and out of your body. Focusing on each breath in this way allows you to observe your thoughts as they arise in your mind and, little by little, to let go of struggling with them. You come to realise that thoughts come and go of their own accord; that you are not your thoughts. You can watch as they appear in your mind, seemingly from thin air, and watch again as they disappear, like a soap bubble bursting. You come to the profound understanding that thoughts and feelings (including negative ones) are transient. They come and they go, and ultimately, you have a choice about whether to act on them or not.I found it right here.
Mindfulness is about observation without criticism; being compassionate with yourself. When unhappiness or stress hover overhead, rather than taking it all personally, you learn to treat them as if they were black clouds in the sky, and to observe them with friendly curiosity as they drift past. In essence, mindfulness allows you to catch negative thought patterns before they tip you into a downward spiral. It begins the process of putting you back in control of your life.
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Thursday, December 01, 2011
Enlightenment
Enlightenment is not imagining figures of light but making the darkness conscious.
-- Carl Jung
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Inner values
Developing inner values is much like physical exercise. The more we train our abilities, the stronger they become.
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
Something about boundaries
Boundaries define our comfort zone. They can be physical or emotional. We enforce them to protect our bodies and our emotions as well. In recovery we learn to enforce our boundaries by standing up for our rights against all manner of actions by others that are inappropriate in either physical or emotional space. Physically, this could range from firm rejection of physical or sexual abuse to not permitting touching of our shoulder, leg, or other body part. Emotionally, the range might cover our need to protect ourselves from efforts to brainwash us into doing something wrong to just not letting others tease us or not responding to requests for our personal information. I have the right to indicate my unwillingness to tolerate comments that are gross or offensive and the right to insist that my personal space not be invaded. For best health, I will ensure that my boundaries are neither too rigid to allow contact with others with whom it is appropriate to open up to nor too loose to allow me to get run over. I will also respect the boundaries of others.Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is definitely part of a good meditative practice.
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Friday, November 18, 2011
Something about our lifestyle
~~~The cause of all our personal problems and nearly all the problems of the world can be summed up in a single sentence: Human life is very deep, and our modern dominant lifestyle is not.
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
"Actively do nothing"
This is a very powerful antidote to the all too frequent obsession with "getting it right" in meditation.Take a seat ...and just sit. .... Relax. Don't try to do anything at all. Don't try to make anything come, don't try to make anything go leave. Let everything do its own work, chart its own course. As you sit, just sit with the world, with whatever is there, all of the arisings and passings away in your mind, body, and environment. As you notice sights and sounds, thoughts and feelings, memories and anticipations, relax into them. Relax your mind and body. Actively do nothing. Make no efforts. Just sit, just be, at least for now
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The mentality is this. There is nowhere that you need to go, nothing that you need to achieve, no one that you need to be....
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Monday, November 14, 2011
The down side of multi-tasking
Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Something that makes SO much sense
"Once people feel nourished and refreshed, they cannot help but be kind; just so, the world aches for the generosity of a well-rested people."So, let's give ourselves that nourishment and refreshment and stop telling ourselves that we don't have time to meditate...
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Wednesday, November 09, 2011
Being willing to stop sometimes
"When a man feels that he cannot leave his work, it is a sure sign of an impending collapse."
-- Louis Brandeis
Tuesday, November 08, 2011
Anxiety?
Try breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth for five minutes with their eyes closed.
Wednesday, November 02, 2011
Impermanence
Daylight is good at arriving at the right timeIts not always going to be this greyAll things must pass
All things must pass away
All things must pass
None of lifes strings can last
So, I must be on my way
And face another day
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Understanding silence in a whole new way
Being silent for me doesn't require being in a quiet place and it doesnt mean not saying words. It means, "receiving in a balanced, noncombative way what is happening." With or without words, the hope of my heart is that it will be able to relax and acknowledge the truth of my situation with compassion.
-- Sylvia Boorstein
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Something about limits
It is the commonest of mistakes to consider that the limit of our power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive.
-- C.W. Leadbeater
Monday, October 24, 2011
That which is within
"What is behind us or before us is tiny compared to what is within us."Yes indeed. What we have within us is a fundamentally enlighted nature - although we're not completely awake to that.
Yet.
Let us bring that wonderful potential into the arena of mindfulness. (It will make all the difference.)
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Sunday, October 23, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Friday, October 21, 2011
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Monday, October 17, 2011
Seeing through the nature of attachment
The process of practice is to see through, not to eliminate, anything to which we are attached. We could have great financial wealth and be unattached to it, or we light have nothing and be very attached to having nothing. Usually, if we have seen through the nature of attachment, we will have a tendency to have few possessions, but not necessarily. Most practice gets caught in this area of fiddling with our environments or our minds. "My mind should be quiet." Our mind doesn't matter; what matters is non attachment to the activities of the mind. And our emotions are harmless unless they dominate us - that is, if we are attached to them)---then they create dis-harmony for everyone. The first problem in practice is to see that we are attached. As we do consistent, patient [sitting practice] we begin to know that we are nothing but attachments; they rule our lives. But we never lose an attachment by saying it has to go. Only as we gain true awareness of its true nature does it quietly and imperceptibly wither away; like a sandcastle with waves rolling over, it just smoothes out and finally Where is it? What was it?
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Saturday, October 15, 2011
Being truly in touch with life
Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.
Friday, October 14, 2011
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Opening our eyes to the beauty of life
Sometimes people say, “Well, you know, I don’t really meditate. That’s not my thing.” Well, is your thing to be yourself? Is your thing to discover the depths of your own being? Is your thing to open your eyes to the beauty of life? Well, then you’re a meditator, because that’s all meditation is. It’s being willing to sit down and stop watching television, so to speak. To be willing to sit down and put the Time Magazine over on the shelf or the Utne Reader or whatever your thing is. To be willing to be alone, to be willing to give your own state of being room to show itself…This is good stuff, people. Give it some serious thought. Please.
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This is something I tell my students:
“If you don’t put meditation on the top of your To Do list, it will be at the bottom, and it won’t happen.”
I find that if meditation is not the first priority of my day it won’t happen.
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Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
What causes unhappiness?
If you look carefully you will see that there is one thing and only one thing that causes unhappiness. The name of that thing is Attachment. What is an attachment? An emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy.... Here is a mistake that most people make in their relationships with others. They try to build a steady nesting place in the ever-moving stream of life.
Monday, October 10, 2011
A proper kind of detachment
By detachment I do not mean total flight from life, but rather the achievement of wise perspective -- what Spinoza called "looking at things under the aspect of eternity." Detachment gives us the understanding that we are born into a world that is larger and more important than we; that we are drops in an infinite sea; that we are marvelously distilled globules of Divine rain and dew; that we shall not last forever; that all of our priceless values are at the mercy of time, and that we cannot have both intensity of experience and permanency of duration.By detachment I mean the ability to look at ourselves with a kind of laughing humor, a nodding acquaintance with our fragilities, a tipping of the hat, as it were, to the petulant angers which vanish as we recognize them. By detachment I mean also the daring to view our individual life in the greater setting of time and eternity; to taste beforehand with the tongue of imagination the defeats and the pains to which life commits us, and by so tasting to remove something of the gall and vitriol from the cup of defeat. Man has this gift of discounting both his own victories and his own calamities. Let us utilize it to the full, for our greater peace of mind.
Wednesday, October 05, 2011
Under the weather...
Take care, everyone!
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Monday, October 03, 2011
Sunday, October 02, 2011
Awareness
"The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival."
Friday, September 30, 2011
Creating problems...
At times almost all of us envy the animals. They suffer and die, but do not seem to make a "problem" of it.Maybe it would be helpful to practice simply experiencing what we experience and give ourselves permission not to frame difficulties as "problems". At least not all of them...
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If we live, we live; if we die, we die; if we suffer, we suffer; if we are terrified, we are terrified. There is no problem about it.
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Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Seeing our own impermanence
Let go, and respond to the immediate needs around you. Don't get caught in some false perception of yourself. There will always be another person more gifted than you. And don't perceive your position as important, but be ready to serve at any moment. If you can let go of who you think you are, you will become free--ready to love others. If you learn to see your impermanence, you will be able to live for the moment and not miss opportunities to love by pushing things into the future.
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Saturday, September 24, 2011
A sincere wish for all of you -- and myself, too
May you be at peace.
May your heart remain open.
May you awaken to the light of your own true nature.
May you be healed.
May you be a source of healing for all beings.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Bring the mind back
When I dance, I dance; when I sleep, I sleep; yes, and when I walk alone in a beautiful orchard, if my thoughts drift to far-off matters for some part of the time for some other part I lead them back again to the walk, the orchard, to the sweetness of this solitude, to myself.
-- Montaigne
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
A translucent whole
Sometimes say softly to yourself: "Now...now. What is happening to me now? This is now. What is coming into me now? This moment?"
Then suddenly you begin to see the world as you had not seen it before, to hear people's voices and not only what they are saying but what they are trying to say and you sense the whole truth about them. And you sense existence, not piecemeal - not this object and that - but as a translucent whole.
Monday, September 19, 2011
The most important of all voyages
What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves? This is the most important of all voyages of discovery, and without it, all the rest are not only useless, but disastrous.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
The incomparable value of appreciation
The instruction is found in Kevin Griffin's One Breath at a Time:
Very slowly move through these phrases in your mind, contemplating their meaning and letting their meaning penetrate beyond the idea to the actual feeling itself.Here is a link to an article on mudita you might like to read. And here's another. Both articles bring joy just by reading them.
"May I be appreciative and grateful."
"May I be aware of beauty and joy [in others]."
"May I be open to beauty and joy."
"May I respond to beauty and joy with appreciation and gratitude."
Think of those who are dear to you and offer them the same wishes. Say their names to yourself as you repeat the phrases, "May ___ be appreciative and grateful." Envision them experiencing mudita.
"May___ be aware of beauty and joy."
"May___ be open to beauty and joy."
"May___ respond to beauty and joy with appreciation and gratitude."
After wishing those who are dear to you mudita, move out to people more neutral: neighbors, colleagues, people you see in your daily routine. Instead of using names, you can visualize them and say, "May you be aware of beauty and joy." You can see many faces as you repeat the phrases.
Finally, wish mudita for those who are difficult, people you resent or fear, or someone who has harmed you.
Then radiate mudita outward to all beings nearby, and gradually out to the whole planet, and finally the entire universe.
Friday, September 16, 2011
More and more peace
Ultimately we have just one moral duty: to reclaim large areas of peace in ourselves, more and more peace, and to reflect it toward others. The more peace there is in us, the more peace there will be in our troubled world.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Loving-kindness
With a kind and compassionate heart, all you attempt - including your practice of mindfulness - will flow more easily. Loving-kindness meditation uses repeated phrases, images, and feelings to evoke kindness and compassion. It is not exactly a mindfulness practice, yet the qualities it cultivates are crucial to the practice of mindfulness.As you remember, I have recommended the phrases, "May I be happy; may I be well; may everything be well in my life," and then extending that to others. Here is the formula Brantley recommends:
This meditation is not about sentimentality or about manufacturing "good" feelings. It is about connecting with and cultivating a capacity for kindness and friendliness that is already within you. At first it may feel mechanical or clumsy. It may arouse painful feelings like anger or grief. Don't let this disturb you. Keep up your practice and discover what happens next. When you have difficulty, hold yourself with kindness and compassion.
May I be happy.Then, of course, as you extend the practice out from you, change the pronoun to "he", "she" or "they".
May I be healed and healthy.
May I be filled with peace and ease.
May I be safe.
As Brantley says:
With some practice a steady sense of kindness can develop. You will be able to work with directing kindness toward all kinds of people - even difficult people.This is a good time of year to work on loving-kindness practice. It is a wonderful antidote to stress and tension and an overall sense of busyness.
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Close attention
The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.
Friday, September 09, 2011
Attachment to "stuff"
Thursday, September 08, 2011
A little reality check
Let go, and respond to the immediate needs around you. Don't get caught in some false perception of yourself. There will always be another person more gifted than you. And don't perceive your position as important, but be ready to serve at any moment. If you can let go of who you think you are, you will become free--ready to love others. If you learn to see your impermanence, you will be able to live for the moment and not miss opportunities to love by pushing things into the future.
Wednesday, September 07, 2011
The role of conscious determination
Can we be a little kinder, gentler, more loving to those around us? This requires a certain amount of conscious determination. I find that it is important to think about speaking kindly and gently, and being more present with others, even when we feel burdened and busy. We have to think about using words that convey acceptance and support. We have to think about being more generous with what we have - with our time, with what we know, with our financial resources, and with our feelings and emotions. A little kindness, a little warmth, a little affection, a little empathy goes a long way in all our relationships. We know this is true with our children, our mates, and our friends. But it's also true with others - even in chance encounters with those we may never see again. We need to live in ways that express our belief that lovingkindness matters.I like the emphasis on thinking. In other words, don't expect kindness and gentleness to be automatic. Thought and effort are required.
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Tuesday, September 06, 2011
The value of a trained mind
Hard it is to train the mind, which goes where it likes and does what it wants. But a trained mind brings health and happiness. The wise can direct their thoughts, subtle and elusive, wherever they choose: a trained mind brings health and happiness.More than those who hate you, more than all your enemies, an untrained mind does greater harm. More than your mother, more than your father, more than all your family, a well-trained mind does greater good.I found these on the Blue Mountain Center of Meditation website.
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