Thursday, October 27, 2005

Meditation and relationships

Here's an interesting observation by Jack Kornfield in A Path With Heart:
In both child rearing and love relationships, we will inevitably encounter the same hindrances as we do sitting in meditation. We will desire to be somewhere else or with someone else. We will feel aversion, judgment, and fear. We will have periods of laziness and dullness. We will get restless with one another, and we will have doubts. We can name these familiar demons and meet them in the spirit of practice. We can acknowledge the body of fear that underlies them and, together with our partner, speak of these very difficulties as a way to deepen our love.

If we're used to dealing with distressing feelings during our meditation, they will not tend to overwhelm us in our dealings with other people.

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