If you want to love, take the time to listen to your heart. In most ancient and wise cultures it is a regular practice for people to talk to their heart. There are rituals, stories, and meditative skills in every spiritual tradition that awaken the voice of the heart. To live wisely, this practice is essential, because our heart is the source of our connection to and intimacy with all of life. And life is love. This mysterious quality of love is all around us, as real as gravity. Yet how often we forget about love.
I want to encourage you to learn to meditate for extended periods of time - that is, at least 30 to 45 minutes. When I'm not in a hurry, when I take time to let my mind really settle, my heart speaks. Learning to sit and be still without rushing teaches us how to listen.
Mind you, it's better - far better - to meditate five minutes a day than not at all. But the longer period will help the mind relax and reach an equilibrium and your heart will thank you.