Monday, September 05, 2011
More about personal equanimity
Well, he's talking about equanimity, isn't he? I like the point that we will not really correct our faults if we fret about them. That's been my experience - with both myself and in observing others. Deep acceptance is paradoxically what helps us change.Be patient with everyone, but above all with yourself. I mean do not be disheartened by your imperfections, but always rise up with fresh courage. How are we to be patient in dealing with our neighbor's faults if we are impatient in dealing with our own? He who is fretted by his own failings will not correct them. All profitable correction comes from a calm and peaceful mind.
Saturday, September 03, 2011
Making friends with ourselves
"As long as our orientation is toward perfection or success, we will never learn about unconditional friendship with ourselves, nor will we find compassion. "
Friday, September 02, 2011
Something about empathy
Empathy leads us to tolerance, for only with empathy can we build bridges to others who seem so unlike us. Only with empathy can we reach out to people we initially want to push away because we imagine that in their brutality or their simplicity or their stupidity they are not like us. Empathy reminds us that the evil in others is a potential that we also carry within our own hearts. The capacity to hate, to exact revenge, to refuse forgiveness, even to take a life is in you as it is in me as it is in all human beings. That humbling realization and acceptance of our own shadow inevitably and unfailingly leads us to tolerance.It is so easy to judge another. If I realize that I, too - under the right circumstances - am capable of that for which I judge another, I will have not only tolerance but true compassion.
Thursday, September 01, 2011
The moving landscape
Sit quietly and reflect on your life right now. It is changing. The future is unknown; some of your hopes will not be realized - but neither will some of your fears. Also, you are getting older. You are on a journey, moving in a landscape that itself is in constant flux. All these changes constitute "home". Take a few minutes to appreciate where you are now in your life... and feel grateful for it.This is a meditation about impermanence. Often we perceive impermanence to be something we don't like. But think about it. Without impermanence we could not grow or develop. We would not be able to change in the ways we want to change. So let's cultivate an appreciation for the fact that things continually change.
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Saturday prayer blogging
May we be united in heart.
May we be united in speech.
May we be united in mind.
May we perform our duties
As did the wise of old.
May we be united in our prayer.
May we be united in our goal.
May we be united in our resolve.
May we be united in our understanding.
May we be united in our offering.
May we be united in our feelings.
May we be united in our hearts.
May we be united in our thoughts.
May there be perfect unity amongst us.
From the Rig Veda
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
A big fear about meditation
Why would you prefer to have toxic stuff inside you that you don't even know about? Only if we know what's there can we do anything about it. Otherwise, it will rule our lives and we won't even understand why.Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Sunday, August 21, 2011
Interconnectivity
In the movie “Powder,” there is a beautiful scene at the county fair, where Powder and Maxine are having a conversation. Powder says: “We are part of everyone and everything.” Maxine: “Are you telling me that I am part of this tree, a part of the vast ocean, a part of a man in jail thousands of miles away?” Powder: “Yes, you don't believe me?” Maxine: “It's hard to believe.”You can find the whole piece right here.
Can we believe that we're all connected, that we are one with each other? Would that change the world? What if we no longer judged a person whether that person was a heterosexual or homosexual, not judge a person because of his/her religious background, or the color of their skin? Would that change the world and would that change us?
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Friday, August 19, 2011
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
The fabric of the universe
An inner truth always has a corresponding outer reality. Our interdependence is woven through the fabric of the universe. The painful, fearful, wonderful message of the modern world is that we are members one of the other, and that we cannot live if we are not in communion with each other. The world, even for the hard of learning, is turning out to be one great household - every woman, my sister, every man, my brother.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Friday, August 12, 2011
Visualize blowing bubbles
Some people imagine a calm scene to help them wind down at the end of the day. There are no rules about what you should imagine, so long as it's calming. Although clouds, the ocean, and mountains are common choices, you can focus on something as general or as specific as you want.I found it right here.
"I had a patient who liked to picture his office—brushing everything off his desk and going to sleep," Walsleben says. "Other people enjoy visualizing that they're blowing bubbles. They put the stick in the jar and watch every bubble go over a field until the jar is empty."
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Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Something that's just lovely
~~~The best things in life are nearest: Breath in your nostrils, light in your eyes, flowers at your feet, duties at your hand, the path of right just before you. Then do not grasp at the stars, but do life's plain, common work as it comes, certain that daily duties and daily bread are the sweetest things in life.
Tuesday, August 09, 2011
Adversity
Mind you, this doesn't speak to every kind of adversity but it does speak to some. And it really helps with perspective.Some luck lies in not getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you have got it you may be smart enough to see is what you would have wanted had you known.
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Monday, August 08, 2011
Yes, this is possible:
Some time ago I signed up for a thirty day subscription to Kristin Noelle's trust tending sketches. The above is one of them that I particularly liked. Now I'm not thinking this means that we are supposed to cultivate some sort of split within ourselves at all. Rather, I think it is reminding us that, even when we're freaking out, there is a place of calm within us that we can access and thus alleviate our suffering.If I stay "in the moment", can I still make plans?
Plan, but don't plan the outcome.~~~
It is all right to make plans, but it is not okay to insist on a particular outcome. Sometimes I may do things expecting particular results, but in focusing on the goal instead of the things I should do to reach that goal I may create a set up for disappointment. I can take action, but I cannot rigidly determine the results. When my mind is not set upon the end state, I can be sanguine about failures by saying I did my best (returning the focus to my behavior). With emphasis on what I'm doing instead of emphasis on where I'm going, I will be able to handle the times when things didn't work out.
Sunday, August 07, 2011
Illusions
Illusions commend themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces.
Saturday, August 06, 2011
Smooth versus rough
Friday, August 05, 2011
Thursday, August 04, 2011
Careful about those"goals"!
Here's a brief passage that reminds us not to get attached with the results from meditative practice that we imagine ought to happen:
Most of the time that people get discouraged with practice, they do it to themselves. They've heard time and time again that the practice is being nobody and going nowhere, then they sit down and try to be somebody getting somewhere. Thoughts arise around that wish and they suffer.Isn't that an intriguing paradox?
I think this is why the Zen folks say we need to have perpetual "beginner's mind".
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Wednesday, August 03, 2011
Sunday, July 31, 2011
How impatience emerges
Other people can’t cause us to be impatient unless we let them do so. In other words, others don’t make us impatient. We make ourselves impatient, through our expectations and demands, fixated attachments and stuckness.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Embracing the present moment
Are you waiting to start living? If you develop such a mind pattern, no matter what you achieve or get, the present will never be good enough; the future will always seem better. A perfect recipe for permanent dissatisfaction and non-fulfillment, don't you agree?
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Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don't want the present. You don't want what you've got, and you want what you haven't got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don't want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Experience and expectation
When we look back at our experience, we can see so clearly its ephemeral, dreamlike nature. Yet when we look ahead, when we look to the future, somehow (and this is the great enchantment) we get dazzled by all the possibilities that are there waiting for us as if the next event in our lives, the next sitaution, the next project, the next reationship, the next meal, even on meditation the next breath ... we live our lives in anticipation of the next hit of experience as if the one that's coming will finally do it for us. What's so strange is that nothing up 'til now has brought that sense of real completion or fulfillment. So why are we so seduced into thinking that the next one will? This is a very strange phenomenon.
Monday, July 25, 2011
Facing our pain
We have to face the pain we have been running from. In fact, we need to learn to rest in it and let its searing power transform us.A few simple words, really. With a meaning that bears careful and deep pondering.
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Sunday, July 24, 2011
Our attitudes toward ourselves
She's right, you know.If we fall, we don’t need self-recrimination or blame or anger – we need a reawakening of our intention and a willingness to recommit, to be whole-hearted once again.
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Friday, July 22, 2011
Peace - the real thing
Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. We can love and care for others but we cannot possess our children, lovers, family, or friends. We can assist them, pray for them, and wish them well, yet in the end their happiness and suffering depend on their thoughts and actions, not on our wishes.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
An important observation for us all
The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Monday, July 18, 2011
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Inside - Outside
Really, the fundamental, ultimate mystery -- the only thing you need to know to understand the deepest metaphysical secrets -- is this: that for every outside there is an inside and for every inside there is an outside, and although they are different, they go together.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Friday, July 15, 2011
That which we resist persists
Here's a little extremely ironic "quick fact" that illustrates this principle very effectively:
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Thursday, July 14, 2011
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Courage and respect
"The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently."We often think we're protecting ourselves by refusing to look within. Actually, just the opposite is the case.
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Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Online stress relief
Online abstract image maker
Just click on the link and you'll see what I mean.
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Monday, July 11, 2011
Sunday, July 10, 2011
More about discernment
Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.-- Lin Yutang
Saturday, July 09, 2011
Friday, July 08, 2011
Thursday, July 07, 2011
Something about finding ourselves
You will never find yourself until you face the truth.
Wednesday, July 06, 2011
Well, yeah....
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.
Tuesday, July 05, 2011
Please pray and/or send good thoughts
Monday, July 04, 2011
Independence Day
Photo from Wikimedia Commons Freedom to differ is not limited to things that do not matter much. That would be a mere shadow of freedom. The test of freedom's substance is the right to differ as to things that touch the heart of the existing order. If there is any fixed star in our constitutional constellation, it is that no official, high or petty, can prescribe what shall be orthodox in politics, nationalism, religion, or other matters of opinion, or force citizens to confess by word or act their faith within.
Sunday, July 03, 2011
The benefits of TRUE leisure time
I was recently in a meeting with a dozen high-powered professional people. We started talking about our goals for our leisure time, and how seldom we allow ourselves to truly enjoy our own quiet moments. We each decided to make a list of the things we really liked to do.The lists included things like watching a sunset. Taking a walk. Chatting with a friend. Browsing in a bookstore. Reading a good book. Puttering in the garden. Taking a nap. Spending quiet time with our spouse. Spending quiet time with our kids. Listening to a favorite piece of music. Watching a favorite movie. Sitting quietly in a comfy chair and doing nothing.
Friday, July 01, 2011
A little relaxation help
Enjoy. Very soothing:
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Our responsibility
You are responsible for the energy you bring to those around you.I really like that. Notice what it does not say. It does not say that we are responsible for how other people feel. We can't take that on, really, (although others may try to manipulate us into believing we can or should). We do, however, have some real choice about what we contribute to the atmosphere around us.
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Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
True freedom
“Mindfulness is not an evasion or an escape. It means being here, present, and totally alive. It is true freedom—and without this freedom, there is no happiness.”
Monday, June 27, 2011
Meditation and special challenges
Brandon Heinz, an eighth grader in the Bristol Township School District, told occupational therapist Charles E. Gallagher that he had been asked to sit still "millions of times."The problem is that it's not always easy.
For Brandon, 14, and his classmates - students with autism, attention-deficit disorders, or other special needs - controlling signs of anxiety is often a struggle.
So Gallagher made a suggestion: Breathe.
"In through your nose, and out through your mouth," he instructed. Then, he said, let out a big sigh.
Gallagher went on to teach the students meditation techniques to help them cope when frustration threatens to overwhelm.
Sunday, June 26, 2011
The heart of effective living
No, this doesn't mean not to plan. We need to live in the moment - not necessarily for the moment. (There's a difference.) We can, however, be thoroughly in the moment while we're making sensible plans for the future - letting the planning be an act of responsibility and not an obsession.Present-moment living, getting in touch with your now, is at the heart of effective living. When you think about it, there really is no other moment you can live. Now is all there is, and the future is just another present moment to live when it arrives.
-- Wayne Dyer
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Friday, June 24, 2011
Inner peace
You know, I come across people who actually seem to boast of impatience or, at the very least, vigorously justify it. Now that I think about it, they weren't very peaceful sorts at all....Inner peace is letting go of impatience.
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Thursday, June 23, 2011
Recongizing beauty
There's so much beauty around you--and not just where one conventionally would look for beauty. In a flower, of course it's there supremely, but even in places you would not be looking for it.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Real equanimity, real peace
If there is love, there is hope to have real families, real brotherhood, real equanimity, real peace. If the love within your mind is lost, if you continue to see other beings as enemies, then no matter how much knowledge or education you have, no matter how much material progress is made, only suffering and confusion will ensue.
Monday, June 20, 2011
Sad and often true
People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Valuing the darkness
Odd that I had not come across it before but I haven't. It's so wonderful that I would have thought it would be picked up more often in a variety of books and websites on the spiritual life.“Enlightenment is not imagining figures of light but making the darkness conscious.”
Well, I've found it now and it will continue, I'm sure, to be a powerful springboard for reflection.
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Saturday, June 18, 2011
Acceptance
When we see ourselves in a situation which must be endured and gone through, it is best to meet it with firmness, and accommodate everything to it in the best way practicable. This lessens the evil, while fretting and fuming only increase your own torments.
-- Thomas Jefferson
Friday, June 17, 2011
A willingness to be still
Wisdom comes with the ability to be still. Just look and just listen. No more is needed. Being still, looking, and listening activates the non-conceptual intelligence within you. Let stillness direct your words and actions.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Over-concern with "getting it right"
Meditation invites us to stop, just stop, breathe and be. Just as with a musician playing or an artist painting, when we stop trying to make it happen something occurs, like the radiant sun that suddenly emerges in a cloudy sky. But because we try so hard, we identify more with the technique instead of allowing the meditation to reveal itself.Many people get frustrated with meditation because they're striving for some sort of idealized technique that will produce a certain feeling. I like the encourage simply to stop, to breathe and to be.
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Monday, June 13, 2011
Steps
What saves a person is to take a step. Then another step.
By the way, if you've never read The Little Prince, I highly recommend it. Even though it looks like a book for children, it really is for grown-ups.
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Sunday, June 12, 2011
Something about perception
Yup. As I often find myself saying in the Foundations class, "Notice the non-objectivity of perception."What we observe is not nature itself, but nature exposed to our method of questioning.
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Saturday, June 11, 2011
The effect we have on others
Most people rarely give thought to the effect they have had or will have on others. When we take a few moments to contemplate how our individual modes of being affect the people we spend time with each day, we come one step closer to seeing ourselves through the eyes of others. By asking ourselves whether those we encounter walk away feeling appreciated, respected, and liked, we can heighten our awareness of the effect we ultimately have. Something as simple as a smile given freely can temporarily brighten a person’s entire world... And small gestures of kindness can even prove to those embittered by the world that goodness still exists.The complete article is right here.
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Friday, June 10, 2011
Authentic silence
A person may seem to be silent, but if his heart is condemning others, he is babbling ceaselessly. But there may be another who talks from morning till night and yet he is truly silent, that is, he says nothing that is not profitable.
-- Abba Pimen
Wednesday, June 08, 2011
The truly valuable gift
Here's the version I found today and it really spoke to me:
A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman."I've been thinking," he said, "I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.
-- Author Unknown
Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Urgent and vital
Meditation, of course, is the most effective way of resting the mind. My own teacher used to say that frequently: "Rest the mind; rest the mind." If we are straining in any way when we meditated, we truly aren't doing it correctly.Sometimes the most urgent and vital thing you can possibly do is take a complete rest.
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Monday, June 06, 2011
Saturday, June 04, 2011
More about the "now"
Schweitzer has long been one of my personal heroes. If you don't know much about him, I really recommend that you read up on this life and work.Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always.
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