The paradox of surrender is that in letting go we become stronger. The way this works is that our ego gets out of the way and lets our deep wisdom nature come forth. Never be afraid to surrender to the inner silence. This is where our "spiritual friend" resides - however we understand that reality.
When it seems humanly impossible to do more in a difficult situation, surrender yourself to the inner silence and thereafter wait for a sign of obvious guidance or for a renewal of inner strength.
-- Paul Brunton
Remember the "root prayer":
I pray for your blessing, great and completely worthy spiritual friend. I pray that you will cause love, compassion and pefect charity* to arise in my mind.("Perfect charity" is my translation of bodhicitta - a Sanscrit word that literally means "awakened heart-mind" and refers to the most profound kind of compassion possible.)