This is where tenderness comes in. When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something. We might realize that this is a very vulnerable and tender place, and that tenderness can go either way. We can shut door sand feel resentful or we can touch on that throbbing quality. There is definitely something tender and throbbing about groundlessness.
-- Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart