Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Attachments and illusion


I have much respect for the teachings of Anthony de Mello. Here's something I found this morning in a little book on my shelves entitled The Way to Love: The Last Meditations of Anthony de Mello:
"You see persons and things not as they are but as you are.  If you wish to see them as they are you must attend to your attachments and the fears that your attachments generate.  Because when you look at life it is these attachments and fears that will decide what you will notice and what you block out.  Whatever you notice then commands your attention. And since your looking has been selective you have an illusory version of the things and people around you.  the more you live with this distorted version the more you become convinced that it is the only true picture of the world because your attachments and fears continue to process incoming date in a way that will reinforce your picture."
There's a lot to think about here. A lot.
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Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Wednesday life form blogging

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Recommended article

Right here:

Evidence builds that meditation strengthens the brain, UCLA researchers say

Good to know, folks. This is really good to know!
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Purpose

I think it would be all to the good if we were to remember this:
"The purpose of all the major religious traditions is not to construct big temples on the outside, but to create temples of goodness and compassion inside, in our hearts."
-- the 14th Dalai Lama
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Friday, March 09, 2012

Moving within

By the very wonderful 13th Century Persian poet:
Keep walking, though there's no place to get to.
Don't try to see through the distances.
That's not for human beings. Move within,
but don't move the way fear makes you move.
-- Rumi
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Wednesday, March 07, 2012

Wednesday life form blogging

Photo from Wikimedia Commons
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The great value of encouragement

Have you ever had somebody throw a wet blanket on something you were enthusiastic about? I'll bet you felt discouraged as a result. Here's an observation about the importance of encouragement:
One of the most beautiful gifts in the world is the gift of encouragement. When someone encourages you, that person helps you over a threshold you might otherwise never have crossed on your own.
— John O'Donohue in Eternal Echoes
Whenever I get frazzled because I have a lot on my plate, Cynthia (the Center's administrative assistant) will usually say, "Go, Super-nun!" It makes me a laugh and it helps me to feel encouraged at the same time.

Encouragement is a form of loving-kindness (one of "the Four Divine Abodes in the meditative tradition). It involves the sincere wish for others to be happy and to have deep well being. Look for opportunities to encourage others - and yourself as well.
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Friday, March 02, 2012

Our effect on the world

It's all too easy to get discouraged and to believe that there's nothing we can do that will make any difference. Not so, not so. It's just important to remember that we may not get to see what effect we have had or continue to have in immediately discernable ways.
“Remember, we are all affecting the world every moment, whether we mean to or not. Our actions and states of mind matter, because we're so deeply interconnected with one another. Working on our own consciousness is the most important thing that we are doing at any moment, and being love is the supreme creative act.”
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A bit of a nuisance

My friend, MadPriest, posted the following:
"Blogger is messing us about again. Recent changes to the comment facility has resulted in the disappearance of the ability to subscribe to a comment thread if you have your comment settings set to pop up window. However, it is still there if you set your comments to "embedded beneath post."

"I strongly suggest that we all change our settings to embedded. Otherwise there will be no conversations on our blogs anymore and a drastic reduction in visits.

"Thanks to Grandmère Mimi for sussing this one out for us."
So, I'm off to change all those settings right now.
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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Wednesday life form blogging

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Contemplating impermanence

Yesterday, I began reading Mind at Ease by Traleg Kyabgon and it promises to be excellent. I've read other works by this same teacher to my very great benefit and I certainly recommend him very highly.

Here's just a little snippet that makes a lot of sense to me:
"It is only by contemplating impermanence that we become reflective enough to recognize which things are worth pursuing and which are not. We also learn to see exactly what our confusions arise from, because our experiences of dissatisfaction and frustration initially come from a failure to reflect upon anything."
Well, that sums things up in a direct fashion, don't you think?
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Tuesday, February 28, 2012

The least you need to know

I did a search on this blog site earlier today to find posts having anything to do with walking meditation and came upon this one from way back in 2005. I decided to repost it today because there's some really good information here:


I finally replaced my copy of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Understanding Buddhism by Gary Gach. It's really quite excellent. My original copy was borrowed some years ago and never made its way home and I've definitely missed it. As it happens I was wandering around in Barnes and Noble yesterday and so I picked up a copy. This morning I looked through the chapter on meditation and decided to share with you some points at the very end labeled, "The Least You Need to Know":
* Meditation's like that center referred to when people speak of being centered. A grounding. Integral to wisdom and conscious conduct, it's a key to continual practice.

* Posture matters. The body isn't something to be escaped.

* Breath is a natural interface between body and mind, always available to us to work with. Conscious or mindful breathing means being aware of your breathing. Nothing else.

* You're not trying to control your breath, or your mind. Just be aware. Stopping and just being aware can calm your breath - and your mind.

*Quieting the mind doesn't mean turning into a stone statue. Trying to banish thoughts and control your mind only creates more thoughts and restless mind. Simple awareness can clear mental clutter and sharpen your mind.

* More than mere stretching, walking meditation is a powerful practice.

* Take a friendly attitude toward your mind. Everyone encounters difficulties. Learn from others' wisdom about common hurdles in meditation.
I'm always so glad when I find examples in the published works that emphasize the fact that we're not trying to exert control over our minds when we're meditating. One of the most challenging aspects of teaching meditation is that people often simply don't believe me on this issue. I'm amazed at the number of people who come to class convinced that they are only meditating if they force their minds into a certain rigidity. That, of course, is not meditation at all but its opposite because it is a form of grasping and judgmentalism toward the mind. Remember: rest the mind, rest the mind. Meditation is meant to settle the mind and help us relax.
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Saturday, February 25, 2012

Mindfulness

This is truly a great definition. Take a look:
"Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn't more complicated that that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejecting it."
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Thursday, February 23, 2012

Pain

Here's something I found among some of my notes for class:
"We must transform our pain or else we will transmit it."
-- Richard Rohr

Oh, how true that is. Really.
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Friday, February 17, 2012

Friday cat blogging!

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When opposition is necessary

Participants in my classes often express concern that the meditative principles of learning to "let go of grasping" and "acceptance without judgment" will turn them into doormats. Far from it. These spiritual approaches will actually empower us when we get some practice under out belt.


Here's something I like by a well known meditation teacher:
“Loving someone does not mean automatically acquiescing to their every whim. Sometimes love shows itself in saying no to an attitude or desire that is harmful. But your opposing must be done tenderly, without anger or condescension.”
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Thursday, February 16, 2012

Meditation and school work


Here's an article I'd like to call to your attention:

Simple Meditation Helps Students Concentrate

This research, by the way, has really been in the meditation news a lot the past few days. Here's a little excerpt from the article:
Simple meditation techniques, backed up with modern scientific knowledge of the brain, are helping kids hard-wire themselves to be able to better pay attention and become kinder, says neuroscientist Richard Davidson.

“A simple anchor like one’s breath is a centuries-old meditation technique, but it turns out to have some very beneficial qualities in terms of changes in both the brain and behaviour,” he said.
Remember: we don't have to be students to benefit in this way.
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Monday, February 13, 2012

Monday meditative picture blogging

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Mistakes

I want to share with you this morning a delightful and very short article by Tim Freke:

Making Mistakes

And here's a little excerpt:
"It seems to me that I am profoundly paradoxical. On the one hand so big and on the other so small. Within me are unfathomable depths, yet 'Tim' is also necessarily limited and imperfect. On my spiritual journey I once believed that I could one day perfect 'Tim' into some sort of enlightened being who was always at his best. Now it feels to me that the journey is about embracing all that I am."
I would like to assert that this is one of the most important spiritual lessons ever.

Ever.
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Wednesday, February 08, 2012

Wednesday life form blogging

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Organizing things

Hmmm. This is something to ponder, I would say:
“When we have our body and mind in order, everything else will exist in the right place, in the right way. But usually, without being aware of it, we try to change something other than ourselves, we try to order things outside us. But it is impossible to organize things if you yourself are not in order.”

Monday, February 06, 2012

Monday meditative picture blogging

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The importance of observing the mind

This is very hard for many people to comprehend. It's true all the same. The key word here is "unobserved". Once we start observing our mind, our suffering begins to decrease.
"The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life."
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Friday, February 03, 2012

A process of becoming

It's possible I may have posted this one before but, if so, it was a long time ago. I think it's worth a repeat in any case:
“Life is a process of becoming. A combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”
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Thursday, February 02, 2012

A very interesting observation

Hmmmmm. I never thought about it quite this way before:
"We cannot be present and run our story-line at the same time."
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Wednesday, February 01, 2012

Here's something my Facebook friend, Doris McFate posted today. Isn't it lovely? It's a patch of feverfew:

Friday, January 27, 2012

Something about self-improvement

Here's something to think about:
"We do not have to improve ourselves; we just have to let go of what blocks our heart."

You know, I've observed a lot of suffering over the years when people talk to me about how very hard they try to engineer their lives, to force themselves (as it were) to fulfill an ideal image of what they believe they ought to be. I just don't see that approach working, people. Really I don't.
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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Wednesday life form blogging

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A wonderful Zen proverb

You know, every Twelve-Step program in existence teaches this one:

Student says
I am very discouraged
what should I do?
Master says
encourage others


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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Something about truth

Ah, this one is truly a classic:
"If you cannot find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?"

Now my question for you is this: Does the question above refer to geographical sort of location or is it about another kind of being "right where you are"?
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Saturday, January 21, 2012

Helpful definitions

These are from Zen Living by McClain and Adamson:
1. Meditation is a conscious process wherein the meditator makes an effort to be fully aware without attaching to thoughts and feelings.
2. Mindfulness is what we practice during meditation, but can also be practiced during daily activity. It is the process of being fully aware of our external and internal environments 
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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

A tool for regulating emotions

I'd like to recommend the following article:

Beyond spirituality: the role of meditation in mental health

Click on through. It's quite short.
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Sunday, January 15, 2012

Life as it is

Another one by the very wonderful Pema Chödrön:
"The crucial point is that we can relate with our life just as it is right now. We can always connect with the openness of our minds. We can use our days to wake up rather than go back to sleep."
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Friday, January 13, 2012

More on the benefits of meditation

Here's an article I'd like to recommend:

Mindfulness Meditation Is Rediscovered

Here's an excerpt:
The burgeoning field of neuroscience emits a fairly constant stream of evidence for meditation’s positive impact on immune response, cardiovascular functioning, the brain itself. Meditation can change the brain—measurably. Scientists can see a thickening of the cortex areas where memory and empathy reside. In one famous study, subjects who meditated showed less activity in an area associated with negative emotions like anger, depression, and anxiety, and more activity in the area associated with buoyancy, optimism, and confidence. They also had a stronger immune reaction to flu vaccine than did those in control groups. And all these differences show up in eight weeks.
It's a short article and it's rather inspiring -- so do click through!
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Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Something about death

Yes. I quite agree:
"Death is psychologically as important as birth. Shrinking away from it is something unhealthy and abnormal which robs the second half of life of its purpose."

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Monday, January 09, 2012

Monday meditative picture blogging

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A good one on mindfulness

Right here:
"Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of present experience. It isn't more complicated than that."
- Sylvia Boorstein

Saturday, January 07, 2012

Beginner's Mind

In Saturday Morning Class today, we talked about the principle of cultivating "beginner's mind". It was a rich and thought-provoking discussion because framing ourselves as "beginners" is such a great help in letting go of habitual tendency. Here is an exercise I found that can help:
1. Look around your bedroom and find one object that you have had for a long time -- something that is very familiar to you. It may be a wall hanging, book, plant, or even a piece of clothing. 
2. Sit down somewhere you can view the object you have chosen, close your eyes (if this feels comfortable), and take a few deep breaths. Set your intention to cultivate beginner's mind. 
3. Open you eyes and look at the object you have chosen. Imagine you are from Mars and have never seen anything like it before. Really look at the object without judging it. 
4. Notice the unique qualities of the object. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Where does it catch shadows or reflect light? 
5. Continue to really examine the object. Do you notice anything about it that you hadn't noticed before? 
6. When you are done looking at the object, reflect on this exercise. Did you learn anything new about the object you chose? What would it mean if we were able to approach everything in our lives with beginner's mind? Are there objects, people, or situations that you tend to react to "automatically," as if you already know what they are?
You can find the complete article containing the above exercise right here.
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Friday, January 06, 2012

Something really worth remembering

Gosh. Isn't THIS the truth?
"If you take the the insults of your fellow human beings personally, you will be offended for the rest of your life."
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Thursday, January 05, 2012

Giving ourselves kindness and respect

I often have people come to talk to me who are absolutely brutal with themselves in the mistaken belief that such brutality will somehow help them improve their lives. I like what Pema Chödrön has to say about that:
Learning how to be kind to ourselves, learning how to respect ourselves, is important. The reason it's important is that, fundamentally, when we look into our own hearts and begin to discover what is confused and what is brilliant, what is bitter and what is sweet, it isn't just ourselves that we're discovering. We're discovering the universe.
Remember, we are not really separate from all that is. We are deeply, utterly, wonderfully connected.
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Tuesday, January 03, 2012

Something about the heart

This is by that very wonderful meditation teacher, Pema Chödrön:
When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.
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Monday, January 02, 2012

Monday meditative picture blogging

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Meditation headline of the day

Here you go:

Breast Cancer Survivors Benefit From Meditation

And here's part of what it says:
The university’s MBSR [Mindfulness based stress reduction] program consists of group sessions over eight to 10 weeks. During the sessions, participants practice meditation skills, discuss how their bodies respond to stress, and learn coping techniques. The researchers found that survivors who learned MBSR lowered their blood pressure, heart rate and respiratory rate. In addition, their moods improved, and their level of mindfulness increased after taking the class, Armer said, noting that for best results, breast cancer survivors should continue MBSR after the class ends to maintain the positive effects.
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Isn't this marvelous?

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Stopping: a radical act of love

Jon Kabat-Zinn is one of the great meditation teachers writing and speaking today:

Friday, December 30, 2011

Friday cat blogging!

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Interconnectedness

This may not, at first glance, seem to be about meditation but one of the most central meditative principles is the interconnectedness of all things:‎
"The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of star stuff." 

I've always loved what Carl Sagan said here - ever since I heard it on Cosmos so many years ago. "Star stuff." Truly wonderful words!
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Thursday, December 29, 2011

A simple mindfulness exercise

Here's something to help us stabilize our experience whenever we're experiencing tension or distraction.

1. Stop whatever you're currently involved in.
2. Take three intentional breaths
3. Now name five things you can see in your immediate environment.
4. Name five things you can hear in your immediate environment.
5. Finally, name five things you can feel right now. (The clothes against your skin, the pressure of your body against the seat of the chair, etc...)
6. Take another three intentional breaths.
7. Return to whatever was claiming your attention before the exercise.

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Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Rejoicing in the ordinary

Many people who come to talk to me are simply flabbergasted by the idea that they need to make friends with themselves. This notion is a recurring theme within the writings of  Pema Chödrön and that's one of the reasons I have such respect for her teaching:
‎"The key is to be here, fully connected with the moment, paying attention to the details of ordinary life. By taking care of ordinary things-our pots and pans, our clothing, our teeth - we rejoice in them. When we scrub a vegetable or brush our hair, we are expressing appreciation: friendship toward ourselves and toward the living quality that is found in everything."
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Monday, December 26, 2011

Monday meditative picture blogging

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More about the present moment

This puts matters into perspective - especially for those people who complain that we really have to think about the past and the future:
“One has to live in the present. Whatever is past is gone beyond recall; whatever is future remains beyond one’s reach, until it becomes present. Remembering the past and giving thought to the future are important, but only to the extent that they help one deal with the present.”
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Sunday, December 25, 2011

In honor of this day!

"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."

-- the Buddha
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Thursday, December 22, 2011

Mind alignment

This strikes me as very thought-provoking, very true:
"Aligning our minds with the most compassionate
words and thoughts we can muster can bring
connection and a sense of peace. For some,
it means giving up almost an entire way of life,
but only this will allow glints of joy to shine through."
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Monday, December 19, 2011

Monday Meditation Picture Blogging

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How to be at home

I really do love the following quotation. And I believe it utterly:
We can travel a long way and do many things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. it is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home.
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Thursday, December 15, 2011

Mindfulness

Here's a verse to ponder:
A drop of pond water under the microscope just like in science class but now you are the pond & the microscope is mindfulness
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Sunday, December 11, 2011

A powerful Zen saying

I recommend that we all ponder this one for a while:
If you understand, things are just as they are;
if you do not understand, things are just as they are.

Friday, December 09, 2011

Contentment and discernment

Here's a nice little article to read:

Meditation: Finding Contentment in Everyday Life

As "discernment" is truly one of my favorite words concerning the inner life, I particularly like this passage:
Discernment is the tool that got you interested in meditation. I'm guessing that like so many others, you discerned that you were not 100 percent happy with the way things are in your life and decided, "Well, let me try this meditation thing out." Perhaps after you learned to meditate, you discerned that it's a tool that's valuable for you and determined that you wanted to make it more of a part of your life.
It's a very short piece so do click through and read the rest of it.
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Monday, December 05, 2011

Monday Meditation Picture Blogging

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Sympathetic Joy

Sympathetic joy is one of the "Four Divine Abodes" - sometimes referred to as the "Four Sublime States":
One of the hardest things for many of us to do is to feel happy when something good happens to another person. Judgment and envy, the tendency to compare and demean, and greed and prejudice narrow our world and make sympathetic joy nearly impossible to experience. But learning to feel joy for others can help transform our own suffering and self-centeredness into joy.
-- Joan Halifax
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Friday, December 02, 2011

A wonderful description of mindfulness

Take a look:
Mindfulness is a very simple form of meditation that was little known in the West until recently. A typical meditation consists of focusing your full attention on your breath as it flows in and out of your body. Focusing on each breath in this way allows you to observe your thoughts as they arise in your mind and, little by little, to let go of struggling with them. You come to realise that thoughts come and go of their own accord; that you are not your thoughts. You can watch as they appear in your mind, seemingly from thin air, and watch again as they disappear, like a soap bubble bursting. You come to the profound understanding that thoughts and feelings (including negative ones) are transient. They come and they go, and ultimately, you have a choice about whether to act on them or not.

Mindfulness is about observation without criticism; being compassionate with yourself. When unhappiness or stress hover overhead, rather than taking it all personally, you learn to treat them as if they were black clouds in the sky, and to observe them with friendly curiosity as they drift past. In essence, mindfulness allows you to catch negative thought patterns before they tip you into a downward spiral. It begins the process of putting you back in control of your life.
I found it right here.
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Thursday, December 01, 2011

Enlightenment

Oh, this speaks. Yes, it does:
Enlightenment is not imagining figures of light but making the darkness conscious.
-- Carl Jung
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Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Inner values

Entirely sensible:
Developing inner values is much like physical exercise. The more we train our abilities, the stronger they become.
-- The Dalai Lama
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Thursday, November 24, 2011

Monday, November 21, 2011

Monday Meditation Picture Blogging

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Something about boundaries

A friend of the Center who runs a recovery email list sent out the following today:
Boundaries define our comfort zone. They can be physical or emotional. We enforce them to protect our bodies and our emotions as well. In recovery we learn to enforce our boundaries by standing up for our rights against all manner of actions by others that are inappropriate in either physical or emotional space. Physically, this could range from firm rejection of physical or sexual abuse to not permitting touching of our shoulder, leg, or other body part. Emotionally, the range might cover our need to protect ourselves from efforts to brainwash us into doing something wrong to just not letting others tease us or not responding to requests for our personal information. I have the right to indicate my unwillingness to tolerate comments that are gross or offensive and the right to insist that my personal space not be invaded. For best health, I will ensure that my boundaries are neither too rigid to allow contact with others with whom it is appropriate to open up to nor too loose to allow me to get run over. I will also respect the boundaries of others.
Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is definitely part of a good meditative practice.
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Friday, November 18, 2011

Friday Cat Blogging!


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Something about our lifestyle

This is really seomthing to think about:

The cause of all our personal problems and nearly all the problems of the world can be summed up in a single sentence: Human life is very deep, and our modern dominant lifestyle is not.

- Bo Lozoff

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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Wednesday life form blogging

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"Actively do nothing"

I'm reposting here what I think is a very profound meditation instruction:

Take a seat ...and just sit. .... Relax. Don't try to do anything at all. Don't try to make anything come, don't try to make anything go leave. Let everything do its own work, chart its own course. As you sit, just sit with the world, with whatever is there, all of the arisings and passings away in your mind, body, and environment. As you notice sights and sounds, thoughts and feelings, memories and anticipations, relax into them. Relax your mind and body. Actively do nothing. Make no efforts. Just sit, just be, at least for now
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The mentality is this. There is nowhere that you need to go, nothing that you need to achieve, no one that you need to be....

- Jundo Cohen

This is a very powerful antidote to the all too frequent obsession with "getting it right" in meditation.
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Monday, November 14, 2011

Monday Meditative Picture of the Day

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The down side of multi-tasking

In an article about how to be happier, I found this:
Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
You can read the rest of it right here.
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Sunday, November 13, 2011

Sunday art blogging

Artist: Seitei (Shotei) Watanabe 1851-1918
Image from Wikimedia Commons
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Something that makes SO much sense

This little snippet by Waye Muller:
"Once people feel nourished and refreshed, they cannot help but be kind; just so, the world aches for the generosity of a well-rested people."
So, let's give ourselves that nourishment and refreshment and stop telling ourselves that we don't have time to meditate...
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Wednesday, November 09, 2011

Wednesday life form blogging

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Being willing to stop sometimes

Who would have thought that something a Supreme Court justice had said would be so pertinent to meditative practice?
"When a man feels that he cannot leave his work, it is a sure sign of an impending collapse."
-- Louis Brandeis
I so very much agree.

If you find yourself getting obsessive-compulsive about your work, do consider that to be an alarm bell, okay?
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Tuesday, November 08, 2011

Anxiety?

First aid for any experience of agitation and anxiety:
Try breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth for five minutes with their eyes closed.

Wednesday, November 02, 2011

Wednesday life form blogging

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Impermanence

Late last Sunday afternoon, I happened to overhear the tail end of the Middle Path group led by David Beach. He was quoting George Harrison:
Daylight is good at arriving at the right time
Its not always going to be this grey

All things must pass
All things must pass away
All things must pass
None of lifes strings can last
So, I must be on my way
And face another day
It's worth remembering, people. Yes, it is.
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